Makeup, bangs, and weight gainers. These were some of the many tools I (Alisha) used to try to distract people from the flaws that I believed made me unattractive. From a young age, I was one of those girls that was skinny as can be, five head for days, and a bad case of acne. Oh and you can’t forget my chubby cheeks. For so many years, I was told that I needed to eat some cornbread, to put some meat on my bones, make proactive my best friend and so many other things to make myself more appealing to the human eye. I began giving into the negativity and tried to cover up any flaw that I believed I possessed. I started caking on makeup to cover up the acne, I cut bangs into my hair so that people could not tell that I had a big forehead, and tried everything in the book to gain weight.
Once I turned about 20 years old, I began to realize that all of the “flaws” that I once tried to cover up were characteristics that God blessed me with. And it finally hit me; the tools and techniques that I was using to distract people from who I really was were not enhancing my natural beauty, but taking away from it. I had fooled these people into believing I looked and felt one way, where as deep down, there was another woman inside of me that was finally ready to be free and show the world who the REAL Alisha was. No more was I going to try to match society’s standard of beauty, because quite frankly, it is unobtainable. Perfect skin, perfect figure, perfect hair, perfect clothes, perfect everything. But here’s a newsflash, NO ONE IS PERFECT! Yes I have blemishes, yes I have a huge forehead, yes I have chipmunk cheeks and yes I am naturally thin, but you know what, I love that about me now. It did take me a while to realize that I am beautiful just the way I am, but hey, better late than never right?! Now when people joke about my perfect imperfections, I just shrug it off. It no longer bothers me, because I have come to learn to embrace EVERY single characteristic, flaw, perfection, or imperfection about me.
I shared this with you all today to not only share my experience in dealing with my own flaws and natural beauty, but also to encourage you all to do the same. So many times I hear other men and women negatively comparing themselves to celebrities and whomever else, when instead we should be focusing on ourselves and why we love us. Is it that you have a spunky personality? Unique, eclectic taste? A curvaceous figure? Beautiful, plump lips? A big and bright smile? A positive spin can be put on ANY “flaw”… it is just up to us to make the effort in doing so. Stop living your life trying to look and feel like someone else. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made- so know that we were created with no mistakes. We are all beautiful the way we are! So let’s stop hiding our flaws and start embracing them.
“People often say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder… And I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realizing that YOU are the beholder”-Salma Hayek
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